"Fate is destined by heaven." From the perspective of Bazi (Four Pillars of Destiny), the trajectory of relationships is often set at the moment of our birth. Some things, perhaps, are truly difficult to force.

Bazi, also known as the Four Pillars, is a system that uses the heavenly stems and earthly branches derived from a person's birth year, month, day, and hour to predict their destiny. In Bazi analysis, information about relationships is often hidden within different Bazi combinations, revealing an inescapable fate.

The Ten Gods in a Bazi chart can reveal different relationship statuses. Generally, for a female, the "Zheng Guan" (Direct Officer) star represents her husband, while the "Qi Sha" (Seven Killings) star represents a lover or a short-term relationship. If the "Zheng Guan" star in the Bazi is prominently displayed (revealed in both heavenly stem and earthly branch), strong, and a favorable (beneficial) element, it usually indicates a stable marriage and a good husband, which is a predetermined blessing. Conversely, if "Qi Sha" is excessive, or "Guan Sha" (Officer and Seven Killings) are mixed, or "Guan Sha" are unfavorable elements, it may indicate more relationship challenges, attracting "bad桃花" (bad romance luck), and being difficult to escape.

For a male, "Zheng Cai" (Direct Wealth) represents his wife, while "Pian Cai" (Indirect Wealth) represents a lover or extramarital affairs. A strong "Zheng Cai" star that is a favorable element indicates a happy marriage, harmonious relationship with his wife, and respect from his wife. However, excessive "Pian Cai" may lead to infidelity, attracting "桃花劫" (romance misfortune), and even financial loss due to women.

The Earthly Branch of the Day Pillar, also known as the "Fu Qi Gong" (Spouse Palace), represents the spouse's condition and the quality of the marriage. If the Spouse Palace is a favorable element and is not affected by punishment, clash, or harm, it often signifies a happy marriage and mutual support with the spouse, which is a blessing from destiny. Conversely, if the Spouse Palace is an unfavorable element, or is affected by punishment, clash, or harm, the marriage may be unhappy, prone to arguments or separation. Especially if it clashes with the Spouse Palace during a "Da Yun" (major luck cycle), it can lead to severe marital crises.

In fact, couples who grow old together often share similar Bazi luck cycles. For example, if the husband's luck is good, the wife's luck is also good; they share both joy and sorrow and move forward together. This is also a destined connection. If one person's luck is soaring while the other's is declining, it can easily lead to conflicts and estrangement, making it difficult to last.

Bazi and physiognomy reveal an individual's innate tendencies in relationships. In many cases, one can only follow heaven's will. "First, destiny; second, luck; third, feng shui." Some things, if forced, will not bring happiness.

In traditional marriage customs, Bazi compatibility assessment (Bazi Hehun) is an important环节 (link/step). Just as in ancient times, modern society should also attach importance to Bazi Hehun. It is advisable to consult Bazi before marriage, or even before dating, to understand whether each other's charts are compatible. By analyzing the Bazi of both parties, one can understand whether they have the destiny to marry, in which year they might encounter marital crises, and whether their personalities, values, and approaches to relationships are compatible. If the Bazi of both parties complement each other, they can support each other, and if their luck cycles are synchronized, it indicates a happy marriage. Conversely, if their Bazi clash or their luck cycles are conflicting, the marriage may be unhappy, and careful consideration is needed to avoid marital failure.